Holidays can exacerbate grief

This article was first published in The Courier-Tribune on December 10, 2025

The loss of a loved one at the holidays can be difficult for families. Liberty Hospital behavioral therapist Kennedie Clay says, “Remember that there is no timeline for grief. Whether your loss happened yesterday or decades ago, that person is still just as near to your heart.”

People experiencing grief often feel left behind during the holidays.

Once joyous celebrations may take on different meaning following the loss of a loved one and it’s natural to feel new, uncomfortable emotions. If you are struggling to feel joy during this holiday season, know that you are not alone.

In an article written for Psychology Today, Barbara Greenberg, Ph.D. wrote that managing grief should begin with self-care, including moving your body and being intentional about healthy eating. Getting plenty of sleep also is essential.

People experiencing grief should feel empowered to say no to participating in certain traditions or events. It is a good idea to plan ahead for what you feel up to doing and know that it is okay to limit the amount of time you spend at gatherings.

Also, being prepared for conversations that may stir up grief in a negative way can help ease anxiety. A simple, “I am not ready to talk about that yet,” is an acceptable response and can be useful for navigating challenging topics.

While your loved one may no longer be able to celebrate with you this holiday, you can start a new tradition in their honor, such as making a new recipe, trying a new activity or adding something special to your holiday decorations.

Remember that there is no timeline for grief. Whether your loss happened yesterday or decades ago, that person is still just as near to your heart.

Also, know that grief evolves. The feelings you have this year may not be the same feelings next year. Bright spots will continue to add to your life and change your approach to celebrating the holidays. For now, focus on taking one day at a time.

If you feel overwhelmed, isolated or off your routine, Liberty Hospital Primary Care can connect you to a behavioral health specialist as well as support services to help you navigate the season with resilience and hope.

For more information, visit www.libertyhospital.org/services/primary-care/mental-health-resources/.